Your Buddy Regularly Touches You or Hits On You Non-Consensually
Non-consensual contact that is sexual one of the more typical types of refusing to respect boundaries within a friendship. I’ve pointed out that this is particularly typical in a few homosexual and/or queer communities where the lines between relationship and intimate relationships can be extremely blurry.
I’d a buddy who really licked me personally (!) non-consensually, on a daily basis. Him to stop, he told me to “lighten up” and that he did this with “all his best friends”(!!) when I asked.
But, intimate harassment and attack within friendships is very typical across communities. Rape statistics show that most intimate assaults really happen between acquaintances.
Within a friendship that is abusive, sexual harassment and attack in many cases are disguised as “banter,”“play,” or “joking around.” Often, we explain this away, saying “he’s exactly like that,” “they don’t mean anything because of it,” or “she always gets handsy whenever she’s drunk.”